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How to stop Self-Criticism: building Self-Esteem through therapy

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Quick answer: To stop self-criticism, start by noticing your inner critic's voice, naming the pattern, and pausing before you accept it as fact. Then respond the way you would to a friend you care about. Therapies such as CBT and compassion focused therapy teach these skills in a structured, evidence-based way. You got the promotion, finished the project, or supported everyone else through a hard week. Yet the voice in your head still says it was not enough. For many people, achievement does not quiet that voice; it simply moves the goalposts. This pattern is common, it is understandable, and it can change. What is the Inner Critic? The inner critic is a habitual pattern of harsh, self-directed thoughts such as "I'm useless" or "I always get it wrong." It often develops as a way to protect us from rejection or failure, but over time it keeps the mind in a state of threat and steadily erodes self-esteem. Why do I have such low sel...

What is self-compassion? A therapist's guide to being kinder to yourself

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Most people can list ten things wrong with themselves before they can name one thing they did well today. That harsh inner commentary feels normal, even useful, as if it keeps us sharp. In reality, it often does the opposite. It keeps us stuck in cycles of shame and self-criticism that make change harder, not easier. What is self-compassion Self-compassion is the practice of treating yourself with the same warmth, patience and understanding you would offer a close friend who was struggling. Rather than reacting to mistakes or setbacks with harsh judgement, self-compassion involves acknowledging difficulty, recognising it as part of the shared human experience, and responding with kindness instead of criticism. Psychologist Kristin Neff, whose research shaped much of the modern understanding of this concept, identified three interconnected components that make up self-compassion. Self-kindness over self-judgement This means noticing the impulse to criticise yourself and choosing a gentl...

How the worry window technique can help you manage anxiety and depression

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Anxiety has a way of following you throughout the day, creeping into quiet moments, interrupting sleep, and making it hard to concentrate on anything else. For many people, the harder they try to push worrying thoughts away, the stronger those thoughts become. What if, instead of fighting your worries, you gave them a designated time and place? That is exactly the idea behind the Worry Window technique, a structured and evidence-based approach used within Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) to help people break the cycle of chronic worry. What is the worry window technique? The Worry Window, also called "scheduled worry time," is a practical CBT strategy that involves setting aside a specific, limited period each day to focus on your worries. Outside of this window, whenever an anxious thought arises, you acknowledge it briefly and intentionally postpone it until your scheduled time. This approach does not ignore or suppress anxiety. Instead, it works by: Giving worries a cont...

Sensorimotor OCD Test: Self-Assessment Checklist for Anxiety Awareness

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Are you constantly aware of your breathing? Do you find yourself fixating on your heartbeat or noticing every blink? If these involuntary bodily sensations are causing you significant distress and consuming your thoughts, you may be experiencing Sensorimotor OCD. This comprehensive self-assessment guide helps you understand whether sensorimotor OCD symptoms match what you're experiencing, and what steps to take next. Unlike general anxiety, sensorimotor OCD creates an obsessive focus on automatic bodily functions that would normally go unnoticed. This article explores the key indicators of hyperawareness OCD and provides an interactive checklist to help you assess your symptoms. What Is Sensorimotor OCD? Sensorimotor OCD is a specific form of Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder that involves intrusive awareness of automatic bodily functions. People with this condition become hyper-focused on bodily sensations they would typically ignore, such as breathing patterns, heartbeat rhythms, or ...